Sometimes we do all of the outer and inner work in the world and still don’t see or feel results. This can be so frustrating! It can make you want to scream, quit, or choose the unhealthy alternative. When you don’t feel the benefits of your efforts you’re more likely to give up. I know what you’re going through; I’ve been there.
You’ve been stating affirmations, attending a manifestation workshop, creating vision boards- and guess what!? Nada! No results, right?
So what the heck is going on? What’s happening here?
Not only do you have to say the words, do the actions, go through the motions- you have to feel it too. This can be the hardest part.
I attended a course on manifestation last year and guess what the hardest thing was for me to do to was? Feel it.
My coach had me sitting there, experiencing the success. She wanted me to state it aloud, “Clients are coming to me. People know about my website. I get calls and emails and responses.” But then she wanted me to go even further…
When saying these things- how does that make you feel?
“I feel good. I feel happy. I feel proud and grateful…”
Ok, I said it. But did I feel it?
Really, really feel it?
How about you? Are you talking about a healthy change? Are you speaking about it? Planning around it? Setting goals about it?
Sure you may think the thoughts and say the words- but do you feel? Feel the benefits? Feel the outcomes? Feel as if it’s already happening?
This feeling is the hardest part, but the most important component to getting what we want- to living an abundant and healthy life.
We can’t just think, speak, write, and act about it. We’ve got to feel it too.
One way I’ve had more success with this ‘feeling’ process is through ways I have already written about this month on this blog. Go back and read through some of the other articles, but in brief here are some highlights of what has worked for me:
- Acting as if what I want is already happening;
- Writing out daily gratitudes, vision stories, and happiness statements;
- Tapping through limiting beliefs;
- Allowing the flow of abundance through giving and receiving;
- Self-Reiki practice on a daily basis with frequent Reiki sharing.
What are some ways that you can ‘turn on’ and tune into your feeling self? When you feel you are going to experience, receive, and enjoy much more success. This success impacts your abundant and healthy life.
I’d love to hear some examples from you! In what ways have you been successful at ‘feeling’ more of what you say and do? How have you brought that feeling aspect into your achievements and desires? I invite you to share a comment, question, or reflection below. And if you’re interested in delving into this concept further, consider working with me. For more information, to get your questions answers, and to arrange a discovery session contact me: (410) 929-0081 or coachscala (at) livingsublimewellness (dot) com.
Elizabeth * and community!* – the *feeling place* indeed seems hard to access now and then (and ohhhhhhhhhhh! when the inner critic pops up staying “See – you still don’t have your S— together” …
you simply get to laugh and *try something else*.
Laughter practice (laughter yoga) has become a life-saver for me, because it opened me back up to *getting to the freer, feeling place*, especially when nothing else seemed to work. The physicality of this practice stimulates the shift – it is intentional laughter (not jokes, humor or comedy) combined with refreshing yoga deep breathing. In 10 minutes I might do 10 different goofy*playful laughing exercises, fully engaging my body with laughter from the diaphragm, and even doing this when I’m feeling discouraged, blue, whatever – I simply “fake it” and shortly thereafter, I’m making it. The physicality of it (the motion) starts freeing the emotional stuckness. And a tsunami of feel-good hormones start cascading through me and neurotransmitters do a different dance. My brain has gotten out of the ego-thinky place.
(You can try Laughter Yoga free with me on 7/20 -must pre-register-or 8/4 in Maryland – visit my website.)
Then… I can begin approaching the whole affirmation thing. I found Noah St. John’s approach – called “Affrormations” – useful. You take an affirmation, in the form of an “I am” statement – and you turn it into a question. The brain and subconscious have a different (non-resistant) response! Your ego-critic will always have *disempowering questions* running: “Why is nobody enrolling?” What am I doing wrong?” “Who would care about my work and gifts?” But you have the capability to turn your affirmation statements into *empowering questions*… like “Why am I attracting the right students, at the right time?” “Why is my life opening to more and more abundance?”. “Why am I growing in confidence?”
To me – all these types of questions help us connect with our inner core, our reassuring *I am-ness*. We can regain balance – and opening to feeling and visualizing -and creating that RESONANCE and vibration that collapses space and time… Hope some of this is helpful. Now once again – come and laugh with me soon!
Elaine,
Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. I so appreciate your feedback, presence, and energy. So laughter Yoga can help us get back into the “feeling” of things so that when we are doing our “abundance” work, we can actually FEEL it? I love that idea! Thank you for bringing this tool to our attention, and in this way. I know of (and have done Laughter Yoga with you on a few occassions now… but did not know that was one of the benefits, thank you!).
I really value you sharing the afformations practice with us here. The questions that you reflect on really do sound interesting, uplifting, and helpful as a way to move us forward. Thanks for taking the time to share that resource with us!
Really wonderful sharing, Elaine. Thank you for everything you do and for being you. Have a healthy day,
Elizabeth
I use Laughter Yoga more than I use afformations – because I have, for a lonnnnnnng time, had difficulty getting *grounded into my body*. Once again, the physicality of it grounds me (and then there are all the hormonal, movement and oxygenation benefits — and PLAY benefits.
But to really experience the benefit of Laughter Yoga – there really has to be some curiosity and commitment to practice frequently – I mean frequently. Sure it’s fine to experience at a group and kinda know about “this fun practice”…. but benefits come from the regular use.
So… is it hard to start a laughter practice? I’ll answer – it takes the same intention and commitment as any other self-care tool. I REALLY am coming to know how teaching-learning and abudance giving-receiving are the same thing. So when you are exploring a new self-care practice (like laughter yoga and/or using affirmations-afformations) – teach it to others – share it with others! It not only outwardly shows your commitment to self-care, it shows you’re human/want to expand, grow and heal. You are showing, what Lisa Sasevich says is important for others to connect to you and trust – share both credibility AND vulnerability.
The teaching/sharing thing is not new. It just needs to be said – again and again because its a tru-ism.
Now, I’ll unabashedly say – please come and explore Laughter Yoga with me. And then *get into experiencing the benefits * by extending what you learn to family, friends, community. Laughter is universal. We grow up, we forget how to play. Time to regain that, be in more comfort, joy…. and yes – Abundance!